So it's Valentine's Day tomorrow. Named after St. Valentine, the defender of love. It was said that he defied the emperor's orders and secretly married couples to spare their husbands from going to war. Do you have a special person in your life? If you do, are you still very much in love? If you don't have a special person in your life, are you ok with that? Love is eveywhere. In our families, friends and co-workers. If you look, it won't be too hard to find. In this blog, I'm going to give you 5 things you can do to keep that spark alive in your relationship, if you do have that special loved one.
1. Give your undivided attention to your loved one- Phones down, look into each others eyes and truly listen to one another.
In this day in time there are so many distractions, it is hard to give anyone or anything our undivided attention. This leaves most of us feeling unappreciated, unloved or uncared for. I know it is not our intention but it does make the other person feel that way. Imagine making your loved one feel appreciated, loved and cared for. That could definitely make your relationship stronger and grow dramatically. These are such basic needs that we've lost to our own detriment. So put that phone down, turn the tv off and truly pay attention to the one you love.
2. Physical contact can go a long way to making your loved one feel special- Holding hands, a simple touch on their back and lots of hugs.
Physical contact can release endorphins and make both people in a relationship feel happier and special. It's sometimes the smallest and consistent act that can make your loved one actually feel loved. It's so simple and takes so little time and effort. Just touching someone's hand during a meal says so much. You are letting the other person know that they are important to you and that you love them. So go ahead, don't be stingy with your special touches, holding hands or big tight hugs.
3. Saying "I Love You" Is an easy phrase to say if you truly love someone.
The words I love you have been around forever. So much so that I feel it can be over-used or under-used. There are people that just say it all the time. To everyone and anyone to make them feel special. Then there are people who rarely say it at all thinking that it should be automatically understood by the other person. So let's re-evaluate how we use this phrase and start saying it with real intention, with real love and with real meaning. When said honestly and with feeling you can truly grow your relationship and fuel that spark.
4. Do a fun activity together- A wine or wine free painting party, bowling or even ax throwing.
The point is to get out there and spend time together. We get so caught up in our must-do and mundane activities that we forget to leave room for the fun ones. If you feel like your relationship is in a rut. Then getting out there and doing something fun together that makes you laugh, hug or even kiss will really get that spark burning. Let's try to remember how much you enjoy each others company and make it part of your routine. Even if only once a month it will make you feel happier and more in love.
5. A romantic candlelit meal in a restaurant or at home- In honor of Valentine's Day of course.
This is always the easy go to for showing someone you love them on Valentine's Day. It really is special because maybe unlike most of your meals, you can truly be intentional with your actions. It also, in just one action does all of the tips above. You can give each other your undivided attention, hold and touch hands, do something fun together like sharing a dessert and say I love you. It's amazing how one romantic meal can accomplish so much. So go ahead, book that reservation at that fancy restaurant or do something special at your own dining room table. Either way, you can't go wrong and could possibly make that little spark become a raging fire.
As you can see, I'm truly a romantic and love Valentine's Day. All or any one of these tips do not have to wait for one special day in the year. Many of these tips can be done every day, weekly or even monthly. The point is to do them. Show your special someone just how much you love them. In the process you will feel so special and more loved. It's a total win-win. If anything I've said resonates with you and you'd like more information on how I can help you to ignite or grow that spark in your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. I love helping couples get stronger, feel more appreciated and to grow more and more in love.
Your Nurse Life Coach,
Nadege
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