"Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving" Albert Einstein.
Grief is defined as "deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death." Yet, it is a common misconception that grief is only in response to the death of a loved one. I believe that you can also grieve the loss of a relationship, a friendship, a job, a home, aspirations, or even dreams. When you have something in your life that is special to you or a dream that you've had for your future and have lost it. Then it can become extremely painful for you and cause a long-lasting intense grief response.
We can get stuck in a never-ending cycle of reliving the event or events that led up to the loss. If we do this, it can make it very hard to move on with the rest of our lives. It can be hard to accept death, move on to a new relationship, a new job, or aspire to new goals and to ever be truly happy. This is why it is so important to educate ourselves about grief and to get all of the support available to us. The goal is to reach some level of acceptance.
Staying stuck in grief is a very hard place to be in your life. You are never truly happy and it ends up impacting other areas of your life. For example, if you are fortunate enough to find love again, you may bring those negative feelings into your new relationship and cause it undue stress and strain. For the death of a loved one, you may find it difficult to ever be happy again. You have to wonder if your loved one would've wanted you to stay forever stuck in this sadness. The loss of a dream may stop us from ever dreaming again and is that fair?
So how do you resolve your feelings of grief? Well, it takes a lot of work and self-reflection. It takes facing some hard facts about the event. It takes asking yourself some hard questions and truthfully answering them. It means giving yourself some grace, love, and acceptance. It means true forgiveness for yourself and others. It means moving on and finding love and happiness in other places. It means new goals and dreams. It means finally being able to let go of the negative and embrace the positive. It means going through that dark tunnel and coming out on the other side into the sunshine.
I believe you can resolve any grief if you truly commit yourself and do the work. Of course, in no way does this mean forgetting the hurt, loss, and pain. Yet, it does mean getting to a place in your life where you are able to move in a forward direction and find peace. It would be my honor to help you resolve any grief that is holding you back from living a fulfilled life. You deserve a happy and balanced life. I invite you to reach out to me and let me help you shine.
Your Nurse Life Coach,
Nadege
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