So your special needs child became your priority the second he or she was born. That is totally understandable. You had to learn about their health issues and how and what to do for them in terms of providing medical care. I'm sure you did your best and learned a lot. Next, you had to learn how to be an advocate for your child and how to deal with hospitals, therapies, insurance companies, etc. You were able to learn multiple skills all at once because your child was your priority and they needed you. It's amazing how much someone can learn in such a short amount of time when it's something they must do for the love of their child.
Now the days turn into weeks, the weeks turn into months, the months turn into years and you realize that your special needs child is still your priority. But you also realize that you may have a significant other, other children, family members, friends, co-workers and actually yourself who have been put on the back burner for years. You may also realize that you are tired, sad, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry or even feel defeated. This is the part where I tell you that if you want to be the best parent for your special needs child; you must make yourself a priority as often as you can. All of the feelings I just mentioned can easily turn into health problems if you are not careful and if they haven't already. Hello, high blood pressure, anxiety and depression.
If you are unhealthy, stressed, overwhlemed or all of the above. Then how can you truly make your child a priority? It's impossible because you get to the point where you mentally and physically can not do it. You are not equipped to handle as much as you did in those first few days, weeks and months when your adrenaline was at an all time high. Yet, some self-care and making your emotional and physical health a priority will recharge your batteries so that you can continue to be your child's everything. You'll still be able to be his or her Dr, Nurse, Physical Therapist, Occupational Therapist, Speech Therapist, Insurance Agent, Social Worker, Medical Supply Company and the list goes on and on.
So I urge you to save yourself and in the meantime save your child as well. Like they advise in the emergency instructions on planes. Put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then on your child. Because if you cannot breathe then you will be unable to save your child. I hope I have been able to prove to you that to make your child a priority you must actually put yourself first.
If anything I've said resonates with you and you'd like more information on how I can help you to finally make yourself a priority. Please don't hesitate to reach out to me. I love helping the parents of special needs children get stronger, healthier and to become the best version of theirselves.
Your Nurse Life Coach,
Nadege
Helping the Parents of Special Needs Children Find Balance in their Lives.
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